Mzee and I are holding up but I must admit that the addition of this little munchkin had changed the game.
Its amazing to me that such a little thing can have such a big impact.
Not being able to make him stop crying is the hardest. When he’s crying I feel like my heart is being ripped into pieces. When Mzee is not able to get him to stop crying in 2 mintues I feel like i’m dying. At the same time I know that its important to let Mzee take care of him and not be hovering all the time. Stepping in every time does communicate to Mzee that I don’t trust his ability to handle the baby. In my mind I know that.
But boy am I failing the test big time! I hear the baby crying, vumilia for about 2 minutes, then I can’t take it any more and I have to come in and intervene.
I’m worried that i’m contributing to a dynamic that is going to come back and bite me in the butt again latter where Mzee doesn’t know how or is not willing to deal with the crying baby anymore or the baby doesn’t know how to be comforted by his Dad.
Moms out there, was this ever an issue for you guys?
Also, in celebration of babies here is Nyota Ndogo and my next cd purchase as soon as I hit home.
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February 27, 2009 at 11:53 pm
Sue
Parenting is challenging, it happened to me but not to all of my kids. Most babies cry for one or two months at a certain time everyday mostly at night, then when they stop they sleep well. Funny some dont cry they only want lights on until they are first asleep.
Its challenging, take heart, it will soon be over.
February 28, 2009 at 2:45 am
mrembo
oh yes! I can testify to that being the reality in my home about 2 years ago. My now 2 year old boy was and still is a loud mighty crier!! Just like you I could not handle it when his dad could not get him to settle down and as a result.. .. for the first 1.5 years of his life I was the only one able to soothe him and Big Al (my hubby) was not too happy about it. But the reality was our son is stubborn and was stubborn then and would cry up a storm if I was not around to soothe him. So in the end we just rolled with it. Instead of having to deal with endless crying. Now Daddy or me can soothe him.. .. depending on who he wants to soothe him.
My advise.. go with your instincts. In time you will be able to tell which cry is for serious and which one is just for attention. Then reassure Mzee alot..with kisses and all the petting words you know
February 28, 2009 at 2:47 am
Typ0
***hugs*** Being a parent isn’t supposed to be easy. You’re doing fine.
March 12, 2009 at 6:22 am
Carol
Congrats for being a parent,its not easy I know……….., and how lovely to have the two of you nind the baby. Have you ever slept, never heard him cry during the night?
Nyota ndogo is right.
All the best!